There’s something in the air. Maybe it’s the ads popping up on your shared computer or maybe it’s your crazy cosmic connection, but you’ve got a feeling…a proposal is not far off. This is one of the most exciting times in a relationship, but can also be nerve-racking. Your mind is going a mile a minute, “What if I don’t like the ring?”. It’s a legitimate fear. But let’s talk through it together. First…do you have an engagement ring Pinterest board? If not, get on that ASAP and definitely leave it face-up on your unlocked phone a few times as you strategically leave the room. You may be like some people that find they’ve been dreaming of this day but never actually stopped to think about what they wish the ring looked like. If that’s the case, we’ve got a crash course for you right here thanks to the engagement experts at Grown Brilliance. Here’s everything you and your partner need to know before they pop the question!
Shape and Style
Before you start dropping hints, you’ll want to narrow down your ideal engagement ring aesthetic. Are you into the classic yellow gold round solitaire or are you looking for something a little extra like a big pear-shaped rock in platinum? Grown Brilliance diamonds come in 10 different shapes: round, emerald, princess, cushion, Asscher, heart, emerald, pear, oval, radiant, and marquise. And choosing a shape is just the beginning! You’ll need to decide whether you’re looking for something ornate with multiple stones and a detailed setting or something more minimalist, where it’s all about the rock!
Types of Diamonds
Diamonds are by far the most popular stone for engagement rings. But, modern couples are leaning away from mined stones because of the less than savory methods used to acquire them and opting for lab-grown diamonds like the ones offered by Grown Brilliance instead. Lab-grown diamonds are chemically, physically, and optically identical to their mined counterparts. Not only will going with a lab-grown diamond give you peace of mind, you can also get more bling for your buck–it’s a win, win!
The 4 C’s
If you’ve been doing any research on engagement rings, you’ve probably caught a few references to the 4 C’s, but what are they and how do they factor into your decision? While the 4 C’s do impact the look of your diamond, they’re more influential in the value/cost of the ring. Depending on how open you and your partner are about the whole engagement discussion, these factors are a little harder to comment on (at least subtly), but let’s get into it, just in case…
Cut
Not to be confused with shape (pear, round, emerald, etc.), “cut determines a diamond’s ability to reflect and refract light.” In other words, the better the cut, the bigger the sparkle. The good news is, there’s no bad cut, there’s only Fair, Good, Very Good, Excellent, and Ideal.
Color
Diamonds can range from completely colorless to light yellow. The closer the diamond is to colorless on the spectrum the rarer it is, making it more expensive.
Clarity
This refers to any “imperfections” in the diamonds, the less imperfections, the more clarity a diamond has. If you do decide to go with a lab-grown diamond the cost for clarity is significantly less than a mined diamond because the growing process naturally produces diamonds with less flaws–yet another reason lab-grown is the way to go!
Carat
Now, we know you’re familiar with this one! Carat measures the size (technically the weight) of the diamond. The higher the carat measurement, the bigger the rock. Not sure what size you’re looking for? On their website, Grown Brilliance has a way to see a live preview of carat size compared to a hand.
With the design your own ring feature on their website, Grown Brilliance allows you to select the stone of your dreams! Each of the 4 C’s has a sliding scale that you or your partner can play with and see how it influences the cost of the ring in real-time. So, you can splurge on the factors that are most important to you and save on the ones that aren’t.
Anatomy Of A Ring
You want to make sure that you’re using the right terms when you’re describing your dream ring…you know, so there isn’t any confusion. Here are some terms you may not know yet and why they’re so important.
Center Stone
This one is pretty obvious, it’s the big stone in the middle. This is the one that you will be talking about when you’re discussing everything from shape to the 4 C’s.
Shank
This is what the industry calls the “band” part of an engagement ring. Shanks come in different shapes and widths and with different levels of embellishments, so really think about the ring as a whole when you’re imagining it.
Prongs
This is what holds your ring in place, and believe it or not, there are multiple options. Some prong types look better on certain shapes. So, once you find a shape you like start looking at the different types of prongs that pair well with that shape.
Gallery & Bridge
This is the elevated part of the ring that holds up the center stone (and surrounding stones). It can be simple or it can be super decorative, it all depends on your personal style.
Know Your Size
While most rings can be resized, it’s obviously ideal to get the size right on the first try, especially if you want a band with stones in it! Thankfully Grown Brilliance has a ton of resources to make the size question a little less daunting. You can check out their ring size guide here which even includes tips for getting someone’s ring size in secret. Or, you can download their printable ring sizer that allows you to measure and select your size on one easy worksheet. Once you know your size, you can conveniently drop it into conversation or tell it to your bestie in case they get asked for intel.
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Photography: Joe Tanis Photography | Assistant: Mark Grgurich | Assistant: Mark Robert Alutius | Engagement Rings: Grown Brilliance | Ring Box: The Mrs. Box | Studio: Prospect Studio NYC