It’s true, the last year has really made us miss our girlfriends, our people. The platitude “absence makes the heart grow fonder?” It v. much applies in COVID times, it’s just more like “[social] distance makes the heart grow fonder.” SO MUCH FONDER. That being said, while we’d love to round up our favorites and go hard with girls’ day and all that comes with it, we’re taking a bit of a step back and, instead, using this time to cherish each of our friendships separately. Brides, this is a great way to approach and plan the age-old “will you be my bridesmaid?” ask, because at the end of the day, once your wedding day comes around, you’ll (hopefully, fingers crossed!) have your whole crew together for the ‘I Dos.’ In the interim, you get a unique opportunity to ask each of your girls individually and specially. You have the time for it, so make it count!
Don’t get us wrong, we love a classic #squadgoals situation, but there wouldn’t be a squad if not for each one of your special somebodies – those from your preschool days, others from high school or college, cousins who feel like sisters, sisters who feel more like soulmates, even colleagues whose closeness with you rivals that of your spouse-to-be (whoever came up with the term ‘work wife’ got it exactly right). That’s why we’re such advocates of relishing each of the best relationships in our lives and then personalizing the all-important bridal party proposals. Group asks are great, and there’s certainly a time and a place for it, but since the pandemic is still forcing us to pause collective celebrations, we can definitely get behind a more intimate one-on-one dialogue.
Our Style Me Pretty Shop certainly has a number of items that work for girl-gang gatherings, in full, but today, we’re zeroing in on the finds that will have your BFFs feeling ALL the feels. Tailor your asks with simple sentiments that come straight from the heart, and if you need our help, we’re there in a heartbeat! Shop everything you need to personalize your proposals 👉 Style Me Pretty Wedding Party Collection
Say more than these five words
The question is right there, we get it, and so will your girls, but that doesn’t mean it’s all on them. Spill your heart out in your card entries, tell each one of your hopeful maids that you absolutely love her and cannot imagine your day without her in it. A thought, if you’re stumped: recall the first time you ‘knew they were the one’ (one who would eventually stand beside you on your best day ever).
If your girls live nearby, decorate each of their envelopes (calligraph their names, add gold-confetti stickers, maybe even take a stab at watercolor effects), and personally drop the cards in their mailboxes. If you’ll be sending them via USPS, then get each girl a special stamp that’s either reflective of their personality or reminiscent – in some way – of your friendship.
Throwback to your friendship bracelets with kindred spirits
Friendship bracelets were the GOAT way back when, but these days, that glorious title goes to something else: champagne. Sure, wine glasses with ‘let’s bridal party’ messaging on them make a statement and feel super festive, but etched toasting flutes take those tidings a step further with bespoke beauty. The approach is tempered, too, which we like especially since we’re all still social distancing and continuing to do our part to bring COVID to a swift end. Instead of saying ‘can’t wait to party with you, bridesmaid!! (which is totally on point when it comes to bachelorette-ing… even virtually!)’ a monogrammed toasting flute – with your first initials (the 2021 friendship bracelet equivalent) – says ‘cheers, lady, let’s do this thing together!’
Vow to make their bridesmaid experience the best they’ve ever had/will ever have
The ‘will you be my bridesmaid’ question doesn’t come without strings attached. There will be moments of crazy, there will be a lot of associated costs, there will be stress, but before your girls commit to it all (and 9 times out of 10, they will), they’ll feel a lot more reassured if you vow to be there for them too. Prepare a special gift box for each girl with a handwritten note and supporting souvenirs. A water bottle for them to rehydrate after they’ve cried all the tears with you; a signature sleep mask for them to pull down [over their eyes] and power down after logging hours of wedding planning with you (the fact that it says ‘bridesmaid’ will speak loudly to anyone who spies them catching some winks #getthatsleepgirl); and a bubbly glass that prefaces their role as a lovely bridesmaid, because of course they are to deal with any and everything you might throw at them!
They’re your bridesmaids and they’ll be showing up for you, so you should absolutely show up for them! Shop the Style Me Pretty Collection for the cutest personalized presents to level up your proposals!
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