"The biggest mistake people make is deciding to get married because “It’s time,” "I want to have the security of marriage,” or “I’m afraid I won’t find someone else.” Deciding to marry out of worry, fear, scarcity or expecting him/her to change after marriage is not a positive way to enter this long-term, intimate agreement—I promise you!"
The #1 Mistake Couples Make Before Marriage
Saying "I do" is so much more than the wedding day. More than pretty flowers or a gorgeous dress. It's about entering into a lifelong commitment with the one you love, and according to relationship expert, Dr. Deborah Sandella, getting married for the right reasons is the most critical component.
So, how can a couple break off their engagement if the marriage isn't right for them? Dr. Sandella suggests first and foremost, compassionate honestly. "Talk about your feelings and consider having a couple's therapist or coach facilitate a discussion," she said. "Having a neutral outsider can help structure the conversation in a constructive, caring way."
Dr. Deborah Sandella PhD, RN is a leading psychotherapist and international best-selling author of Goodbye Hurt & Pain, 7 Simple Steps to Health, Love and Success.
Dr. Deborah Sandella PhD, RN is a leading psychotherapist and international best-selling author of Goodbye Hurt & Pain, 7 Simple Steps to Health, Love and Success.